Am I A Sex Addict?

I don't believe you're a sex addict (in fact, I'm not convinced they really exist, but that's for another article). However, you do seem to have a problem with making choices that ultimately lead to a satisfying life. What most people realize as they travel through life is that we each hold many things inside of us. As you are learning, we certainly carry the seeds of our own destruction. We almost seemed doomed at times to plant those seeds and sometimes even harvest their crops over and over, don't we? We've all done countless things that we know we shouldn't do, both before and after the fact.

But just as that's very true, we also carry inside us the guide to get out of the trouble we get ourselves in. So somewhere inside, you already know the way out of the holes you dig.

In your case, the first few things you mentioned are easy fixes. Love and loyalty from your friends don't need tested to validate them. They exist, whether you believe in them, see them, remember them, or not. Just the fact that you can admit it to me and many readers shows me that you have enough moral fiber to admit to them that you are aware of what you do and to help point it out to you when you do it. Over time, those who you care about will help you become - and respect you for being - a better man. There is nothing wrong with a man who can admit that he wants assistance in growing into a better person. We all do.

And if you can't stop? Sometimes consequence is the greatest teacher of all. You don't put your hand on a hot stove because you know the consequence outweighs the reason you're doing it. You don't drive 100 miles an hour in a school zone because you know the consequence outweighs the reason you're doing it. Eventually, when consequence outweighs the reason you're cheating on your girlfriend, you will stop. Unfortunately, that will probably be long after she's lost trust and respect for you and likely walked out of your life.

You have to ask yourself if this is what you're doing to the person you believe is the best one for you. Is there anyone you wouldn't do it to? If not, then you are going to be planting those same seeds, time and time again.

It's difficult to make your life perfect. It's easy to mess it up.