I can’t orgasm when I am with my partner. Is it him? Is it me?

Dear Orgasm Free Sex,

There could be a number of contributing factors, however, it is most likely either psychological or problems with sexual technique. If it is in your mind, you have to learn to relax and give in to the pleasure you are feeling. Maybe you are too embarrassed to truly let go and have an orgasm in front of another person? If so, you’ll need to work on your sexuality.

Your problems with reaching orgasm could also be related to the type of sexual activities you are doing with your partner. If you are only having intercourse, then it is important for you to know that 33% of women have never had an orgasm through penis-vagina sex. The main reason for this is that the clitoris is generally not stimulated enough for a woman to attain orgasm through intercourse.

Your clitoris is your pleasure organ. The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire penis – 8,000 in fact. And, 80% of women orgasm solely through clitoral stimulation. So, you might not be reaching orgasm because your not stimulating the right areas of your body.

Best regards,