Why doesn't my man want sex?

Dear Horny, Need Sex,

You’re not the only woman out there with a guy who’d rather lay tile than lay pipe. Your guy could be gay, but it is more likely that he has a low sex drive.

Most women assume guys want sex 24/7, however, quite a few guys suffer from lack of sexual desire. A large American study by Laumann et al. (1999) found that 14% of men had suffered from lowered sexual desire in the past year.

Horny, Need Sex that means that every seventh guy you meet doesn’t have his sexual juices flowing. So, your guy is definitely not alone.

There could be a number of reasons your guy isn’t interested in playing sex games with you. One possibility is that your guy is pulling his pud nonstop while you’re at work. Check out his penis… if it’s raw he’d rather spank it than you.

You never mentioned if you had sex like bunnies and he suddenly stopped or if he never attempted mounting you. Some guys always have low sex drives, while lust drops for others at different times in their lives.

There can be many factors contributing to his lowered sex drive including; medications (especially antidepressants and antihypertensives), drop in testosterone levels, too much booze or drugs, stress, and lack of sleep.

This is obviously bothering you, so I would have a talk with your guy about how you are feeling. It is best not to judge him, place blame, or question his manhood.

I know you might be thinking that the reason his penis stays limp is because he’s not interested in you, but it’s most likely that his lowered sex drive has nothing to do with you.

Your guy most likely has problems with the dead feeling in his crotch too. Work with your dude to remove any barriers that are affecting his sex life.

If the problem persists (and if it remains a problem for him and/or you) consult with a doctor or sex therapist.

Best regards,

Dr. Brian Parker