I have a partner but still enjoy masturbating. Is this normal?

Dear Wanking in Wedlock,

Masturbation is perfectly normal at any point in your life whether you are in a relationship or not. Many people have mismatched libidos and masturbation is a great outlet for the individual with the higher sex drive. Further, studies have shown that people have their best orgasms through masturbation. The main reason for this is that nobody knows your body as well as you do. You know exactly how to touch yourself, how much pressure to apply, and when to speed up or slow down.

Make sure you talk to your partner about the reasons you masturbate and reassure your partner that you find them sexually attractive. As long as your partner is happy with the amount of sexual attention you are giving them this really shouldn’t be a big deal. If they have raised concerns or if you would rather masturbate than have sex with your willing partner, you will have to examine why you prefer pleasuring yourself.

Best regards,