I work in sales for an ad agency. There is a new guy who is really cute who just started working on our floor. I want to ask him out but there is one problem. He definitely plucks his eyebrows, wears pink, and seems really detailed. All my girlfriends and I think he's gay. What should I do?
- C.N., Anaheim, CA
Listen, a guy can be a man and still like a manicure. You think that since the guy doesn't want his unibrow that he might be gay? Let me give you a simple definition of gay. Write this down:
He has emotional and/or sexual attraction to the same sex only = He's gay.
That's it. The end. It doesn't matter what color shirt he wears, it doesn't matter if he owns a Cher album, it doesn't matter if he owns a Volkswagen, organizes his magazines, has tasted his own semen, lets you use your strap-on, or any of these other bullshit things I keep hearing. Just because a guy doesn't want a hairy man-ass doesn't mean anything besides just that.
What sense does that even make? You have a job that historically was primarily male-dominated? You wear slacks instead of a dress? You vote? You don't stay at home pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen serving a man? Does that make you a lesbian since you don't follow these ridiculous traditional female roles? No.
Our culture is changing and men's sexuality is not questioned as closely as it once was. I do agree that there is a line between where men and women start and stop. But it has nothing to do with someone's eyebrows or their shirt. He probably plucks his eyebrows just so he's someone you would ask out!
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This article was published on Sunday 17 October, 2010.
