I've been dating a guy for 3 weeks now. I really like him but I'm not sure when I should sleep with him. All my friends have different rules. For one of them it's a month. For one of them it's 5 dates. Another one doesn't sleep with a new guy until he proves that he loves her. I'm so confused. How long do I wait?
- Wendy, Beaumont, TX
Well, there is no answer I can give you that is the be-all, end-all answer. Not only is each individual different, but each person that the individual dates will be different for them too. One may sleep with a person a month into it, a week into it, the first hour, or even something as arbitrary as 3 "I-love-yous" into it. However, the next person you are with is a completely new set of circumstances and requires completely new decisions. So, there is no set answer here. To set a time limit or put some other quota on it doesn't make a lot of sense.
Just the fact that you aren't sure if you're ready suggests to me that you aren't. Wait until there is no question in your mind. When it's right, it's right, no matter how long that takes. Nobody worth being with, or sleeping with, will see it any other way.
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This article was published on Saturday 23 October, 2010.
