How Can I Make My Sex Life Fun?

My sex life has definitely hit a rut. What can I do to make it fun? You have so many options, the hard part will be choosing. The trick is you have to: (1) figure out new ideas; (2) be willing to break your sex routine and; (3) not take your sex so seriously.

Let’s look at the average couple’s bedroom sex scene. They have: very little to no talking, no changing up of the old and tired sex routine, certainly no laughing, no toys, no games, no nothing.

Does this make you want to run to the bedroom and throw off your clothes? Yawn. Me neither. Curling up with a favorite book elicits more stimulation. It is easy to understand why, over time, kids, work, or hobbies often take precedent.

To change your sex routine, here’s a few pointers:

Talk. If you don’t talk about what’s going on in your sex life it will never change.

Understand the problem.

Separate the nonsexual issues from the sexual ones. What are the facts—not emotions—around any sexual challenges?

Teach each other new sexual techniques.

Everyone’s version of what constitutes a good time is different. Hence, creating a fun-space means sitting down and discussing what the two of you find enjoyable and, more importantly, how you will make time.

Sex Tip:

For inspiration, there’s a plethora of sex books at your local bookstore that give step-by-step instructions.

Best regards,

Dr. Trina Read