Is It Okay To Call A Girl I Met At A Club After 3 Days?

The ladies? What is this, Soul Train? Let me settle your argument, Don Cornelius. After you've lucked out and a woman has had enough to drink where she forgets that she promised never to give her phone number to guys like you and your friend, you definitely don't want to blow your chance by calling her at the wrong time. I'm sure you'll be blowing your chance with something else, but here's the scoop anyway.

Your friend is going to lose out on the bartender because after 7 days, it's doubtful that she's even going to remember he exists. This is a woman who meets more people every weekend than you even know. If she's attractive, and I'll assume she is, you and your friend aren't the Lewis and Clark of showing interest in her.

But the both of you are wrong.

You're more concerned with setting up rules for some stupid game than showing interest in a woman. It's probably because you don't appear to want anything than hooking up with them, but you're ignorant to the “real” rules here.

Sure, you don't want to call someone 15 minutes after you get their number, sure. Nobody likes to feel like they just gave their number to some lonely, needy person and therefore just accidentally invited them into their life.

When you're interested, call. If you were charming, fun, nice, etc., with a woman then she's not going to shit herself in despair because you called her after two days instead of three or one day instead of two. Here's a conversation you won't hear.

“I met this guy the other night at the bar. He was cute, charismatic, interesting, and enthralling, but here's the kicker that makes this whole situation bad: he called me the next evening. Oh, despair! Things were so perfect until he called me so soon!”

It has a lot more to do with how you act and what you say when you meet a woman than how many days later you call her. If you're doing it right in the first place, she's hoping her phone rings and it's you.

Amateurs.