I've been seeing a new guy for about two weeks. He's a friend of the family and my best friend is dating his best friend. About a week ago I thought, "I really want to end this relationship." He's a nice guy and I like that, but he is a terrible kisser and I don't feel any kind of spark when we are around each other. I don't want to cause a bunch of drama with my family or my friend and her boyfriend. What do I do? Will it get better?
- Leisha J., Greenville, SC
I tell everyone the same thing: when you know it's not right for you, end it. There is no sense in postponing the inevitable if you know it's not what you're looking for.
It is understandable that you don't want to upset your friends and family, but you need to do what is best for you. You don't wear your hair in a certain way for your friends and family. You don't listen to certain music for your friends and family. Why would you be in a relationship for them? Something that requires as much effort, energy, and devotion as a relationship should be entirely your choice. If it's not working for you, gracefully end the relationship and move forward.
If you don't have any chemistry with someone after one week, you can't imagine it'll become something long-term.
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This article was published on Saturday 16 October, 2010.
