Should I have a threesome with my partner?

Dear Three-Way No Way,

What in the hell are you thinking? You should never compromise your feelings for your boyfriend’s fantasy. If you feel you’d rather eat glass than have a 3-way, then you just can’t go there.

Since you say it completely turns you off, I can’t see how it could turn out to be a positive experience for you, your boyfriend, or the third you two bed.

Lots of guys (and girls) have threesome fantasies, but few people are emotionally capable of seeing their partner bumping privates with someone else. Your boyfriend might say he’s okay with it, but when he witnesses your thirtieth orgasm through same-sex face he might wish he’d never gone there.

Three-Way No Way, just because your partner fantasizes about doing something does not mean you are entitled to do it. You can suggest he keep his fantasy third in his mind.

And, I would be a little concerned if you think he’d leave you if you don’t fulfill his fantasy. You might want to reevaluate how stable your relationship really is.

You should never feel compelled to go kink when you want vanilla. You need to feel safe, secure, and respected in your sexual relationship.

And Three-Way No Way, you need to voice your personal sexual boundaries to your boyfriend so he understands where you stand. He might be thinking that you’d just love to play with some gal’s girly parts.

Tell your boyfriend that you’re glad he feels comfortable enough to disclose his sexual wants and needs with you. Also tell him that right now a threesome is not something you see yourself wanting to engage in.

And remember Three-Way No Way, our sexuality is fluid. Just because you don’t want to try something today doesn’t mean that you won’t get a little more adventurous in the future.

Best regards,

Dr. Brian Parker