Is There A Way To Know If A Girl Has Been Used Or Abused?

After puberty, vulvas look how they look before a woman is sexual with 1, 2, or 200 men. There is no visual litmus test to judge a woman’s number of sexual partners. In fact, you can’t generally tell by how they feel once you’re inside them either.

Vaginal tone is determined by a large number of factors, not just something like, “she’s looser than my last partner because she’s been with more guys.” It doesn’t work like that.

It sounds to me like you’re simply not that familiar with the variance of vulvas. I recommend these two books to you: “Femalia” by Joani Blank and “Petals” written by Nick Karras. The latter is more artistic than the former, but both show the wide variety and beauty of the different shapes of the female genitals. If you don’t want to buy them, at least take a quick flip through them the next time you’re in your local bookstore. They’re basically coffee table books and you can get through them in no time.

Cut your girlfriend a break and get back on the right track to growing together. You certainly aren’t acting right if you’re under the impression that she’s lying to you about something you find so important.