What are some tips to meeting people?

Dear Losing My Patience,

First of all, don’t give up. If you lose faith in women you probably won’t seem too attractive to any girl.

I don’t think sitting on your butt waiting for the perfect girl to magically ‘come along’ is the best idea. You need to get out there, show your face, and meet some women. Come on, you’re in school buddy. There must be tons of girls you are interested in.

Most people fear approaching someone they are attracted to. You’re no different there. It’s perfectly normal to be scared or fear rejection. But, if someone says no, it doesn’t automatically mean they don’t dig you.

That gal might already be in a healthy, happy, and horny relationship. She could also be focused on other things in her life. She might want to excel in the classroom more than in the relationship department. Or, she might not be interested in boys because she likes girls.

Yes, it is kinda creepy to run up to someone in the hallway and strike up a conversation with them out of the blue. But, sooner or later, you’re going to have to talk to someone.

You might want to join some social groups at school, which are more condusive to meeting people. But, please make sure it’s something you’re interested in. If you randomly choose something you suck at or couldn’t care less about, you’re going to look like quite the dork.

Other places on campus that are easier to meet people at are cafeterias, libraries, and study halls. If you spot a girl you like, sit by her. Strike up a conversation about how cafeteria food sucks.

One of the easiest ways to meet people is through friends. Have you tried tapping into your extended friend network? At least that way you can find out if she’s got 50 cats living in her apartment.

Just because you say you always go for the ‘wrong’ girls doesn’t mean you f’ed up. You need to learn from your ‘mistakes’ and move on. And Losing My Patience, have you considered what it is about you that is attracting the wrong girls?

Remember, most relationships don’t work. You’ll most likely have to try a few before you find one that works out. But, remember to have fun trying.

Best regards,

Dr. Brian Parker