Can Women Have NSA Sex Like Men?

Brian's Point

We all know that guys can love’em and leave’ em, but can you chicks?

I know some of you gals are capable of NSA (No Strings Attached) casual sex, but it seems the vast majority of you just can’t separate sex from your emotions. You need to feel loved to do the do. Or at least that’s the message you’re sending to the boys.

NSA sex is a dude’s specialty. Studies have shown that men have more horizontal dance partners then women. The 2005 Durex Global Sex Survey found that men have an average of 10.2, while women have only engulfed 6.9 different peni.

It’s part of our biological heritage that we obviously can’t shake. Male species are supposed to impregnate as many females as possible to propagate their seed. Sexual survival of the fittest at it’s best.

And, guys who excel at taming the puddy get plenty of attention from their buddies. What man wouldn’t want that praise?

But then there’s the other side. Trina, you can’t imagine how many times I’ve heard guys complain about their bedroom conquests turning into stalkers. One guy told me about a one-night stand he had where his bed-buddy demanded he look lovingly into her eyes while they did the nasty. What did he do? Flipped her on her tummy so he didn’t have to. He didn’t want an emotional connection with her.

Trina, I think you girls should know by now that men are more likely to be emotionally connected with their TV or favourite sports team.

No wonder guys have had more screw mates. They keep trying to find a honey that won’t tie him down. Not literally, cause 20% of guys are into that.

And Trina, since so many of your sisters out there won’t put out without some sort of closeness, it makes it really difficult for guys to have rockin’ good sex with someone new.

Men are usually the ones who get up right after sex, put their clothes on, and walk out the door. Is it possible for women to do the same?

There’s an old saying that “women give sex to get love, while men give love to get sex.” Trina, are girls at all capable of having NSA sex like men?

Trina's Counterpoint

Dear, dear, naïve Brian, let me count the ways why women don’t give up the milk so their precious cow can be bought.

I was eating supper with a huge multiple generation family when someone (um, I suppose that would have been me) asked why the fourteen year old boy had a 1:00 a.m. weekend curfew whereas the fifteen year old daughter had to be home no later than 10:00 p.m.

The mother looked at me quizzically and answered, “Because he’s a boy.” A halleluiah chorus erupted from the rest of the family.

“What’s that supposed to mean?” I ventured. Uncomfortable but still undaunted the mother patiently explained, “She can get pregnant, he can’t.” And even though everyone at that table agreed the boy would have to take responsibility for his actions, him sowing his wild oats was far more acceptable.

Let’s see, women’s emancipation and the birth control pill came out in full force forty years ago. Yet women have had to live under the Madonna/ Whore slotting-system for good or bad women for thousands of years.

Women sleeping around and being bold and audacious with their sexuality is most definitely slotted under the “whore” category. If you don’t believe me, think about everyone getting their knickers in a twist around the “Girl’s Gone Wild” videos. People cannot accept that women are sexual creatures and want to use men and then lose men.

As such, I’m unbelievably surprised that 40 percent of women are having one night stands as compared to men at 47 percent. That’s pretty darn close.

But alas, the omnipresent double standard stunts the other women who might try their NSA luck. Case in point. An office group went to a business convention and after a long day of schmoozing it was time to party. One single male made it very clear he was taking someone back to his hotel room. The mostly married male office cheered, wished him luck and got all bonhomie with him. One single gal excused herself and discretely went with a NSA bed mate.

Upon returning from the trip he got promoted, she got fired. Her “inappropriate” conduct apparently didn’t suit the company.

I’ve got a million more stories Brian if you have the will, want or desire to hear them. I don’t think women and men are at all different in their ability to have NSA sex. The bottom line is: women still suffer the consequences and men do not. There is zero motivation for putting our reputations at risk.