Does My Boyfriend Have An Asian Fetish?

Yes you should, but it's for his sake, not yours.

What kind of question is that? You want to unsuspectingly dump him because you believe that he likes Asians even though he's dating you? How would you feel if he dumped you because he merely suspects you feel a certain way?

Let's get something clear about the word “fetish” while we're at it. That term has been used more and more loosely and now I hear people saying things like your, “He's got a fetish for Asian girls.” A fetish is an inanimate object required for some level of sexual fantasy or excitement, maybe even necessary to orgasm. If a guy dates primarily a certain race, that's called a “preference” and not a “fetish.”

You can have a fetish for the smell of hazelnut coffee, a silk handkerchief, or even a yellow rain slicker outfit complete with galoshes, but you can't have a fetish for a race, culture, religion, or even a body part. That's right – a ‘foot fetish” is technically a misnomer too. The correct term would be “foot partialism.” That is the term we use when it's a body part that gets you riled up.

And do you want to hear something crazy? Partialism is in the DSM-IV – psychology's book of mental disorders. Here are the official criteria to determine if you have a psychological issue, according to the book:

”The diagnostic criteria of the DSM-IV-TR are that the individual has experienced intense sexual urges, arousal or behavior involving specific body parts for at least six months.

Manifestation: Like most paraphilias, this particular fetish surfaces in early adolescence and will continue for most of the individual's active sex life. Individuals with partialistic fetishes use fantasies or touching of actual body parts for sexual arousal.

Common fetish parts are breasts, legs, feet, hair (particularly red), ears, and toes. Less common fetishes include amputees and obese persons.”

Read that again, you pervert. Holy shit, right? The amputee blurb is especially confusing since amputees are actually missing a body part. Regardless, it sounds to me that if you use an attraction to body parts for sexual arousal, you're paraphilic. Uh oh! If you like breasts for longer than 6 months, you're nuts. Hell, if you like nuts for longer than 6 months, you're nuts.

Now if you'll excuse me, I am going to satisfy my sick, deranged, yet immensely satisfying vagina partialism.