Are We Drifting Apart?

I think you should stay with him, but stop worrying about him not talking as much as you'd like him to.

A lot of men don't want to constantly talk about everything hour after hour. Many men respect, if not flat out prefer, women who communicate succinctly because it's how we generally communicate with each other. That's not saying that you have to abandon your womanly ways, but it is a compromise of sorts and something you may want to keep in mind.

But more to the point, let me explain this way how what you're doing may be a problem for you:

I met a woman a few years ago and I felt like many of us do when we meet someone new. I was excited when she'd call or meet me for a date, I was interested in what made her work, I loved hearing about her background and upbringing, and I couldn't wait for more of it all.

However, she acted very similar to what you're describing. She didn't even bother playing “20 Questions” with me. She went straight to a game of “20,000 Questions.” She also wanted to frequently talk about our relationship, where it was headed, how it compared to my past relationships, how often I thought about her, how I processed every disagreement, if I ever dreamed of her, and so on. All the charm of the unknown quickly evaporated. All the mystery of who she was and who we were disappeared because we talked about it not ad nauseum, but definitely ad waytoomuch.

I didn't mind opening up. I figure we owe that to each other. But the fact that we talked about every aspect of our relationship “solved” all the mysteries that excite us as they unfold naturally.

Don't flip to the back of the book and try to read the ending first. Enjoy the journey. Be secure and observant. You don't need play-by-play updates from your boyfriend about the relationship. The reason you don't? Because you're participating in it with him.