Is It Normal And Should I Tell My Boyfriend That I Fantasize Oth

Unintentional muscular spasms creeping your muscles closer and closer to locking up, blood pressure soaring, chemicals tearing through your body, dilating pupils letting a world of images in, your body heat rising like you're on fire, involuntary whimpers, your body moving from damply shimmering and sticking to everything it comes across to sliding past every inch of skin it touches, bursts of electricity streaking through your brain, shallow, quick breathing letting you get just enough oxygen where you barely think you will make it through another breath, your heart pounding so hard that you can hear it...

...it's a wonder you can even remember what is flashing through your mind. But don't worry about it; you're normal. It doesn't mean you care less for your boyfriend. It sounds like you two have your act together.

Now comes the difficult part. Should you tell him? I guess the answer depends on your boyfriend. I know guys who would get jealous if their girlfriend said, "You know, I think Barney was a little cuter than Fred." I also know guys who absolutely love the idea of their partner being with another man. Most guys will fall somewhere in the middle. Where does he fall? Is he the kind that would be upset about that kind of thing?

Or is he the kind that would ravage you even more because he wanted to show you he was the only man that should ever cross your mind while you're being sexual? You know him a lot better than I do.

Our private sexual thoughts are our own; that's the beauty of fantasy. You don't owe it to anyone to fully explain every bit of them. If you do decide to tell him, you should do it to enhance your sex life, certainly not because you feel guilty about it or because you feel like you are keeping a secret that you need to get off your chest. But if you really can't decide, it's like the adage says. "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."