When it comes to sex, it's difficult for me to live up to the pressures of being a black male. I was brought up in a modest household with parents who both worked very hard and had strong morals and they taught me those same values. There seems to be some sort of general understanding out there that my black brothers and I are all about sexual conquests. Contrary to conventional thinking, I don't want to have sex with every white woman I see and I damn sure don't want to be the “mysterious negro” that they just have to find out what it's like to have sex with. Is this something we can overcome?
- CBT, Texas
As with any race issue and stereotypes, there are people on both sides that enforce those stereotypes and those that fly in the face of them. But if you're being true to yourself and know what you want and don't want, then I don't know that the problem lies in your hands.
The problem as I see it is with the ignorance, fear, and historical fascination of black sexuality. There are countless years saturated with whites being enthralled with black dicks, being worried that blacks are taking all the white women, and so forth. That's not your problem.
It sounds to me like you're on the right track. You don't want to objectify and you don't want to be objectified. You have tact, manners, and respect. It doesn't get much better than that. Just keep being yourself and setting a good example for those around you.
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This article was published on Tuesday 05 October, 2010.
