Sex Party Stories

I actually found out about my first sex party on the internet. Anyone interested in joining would meet up and this certain bookstore with a straw in their hand. Of course at first when I went to the bookstore I walked around without a straw in my hand looking for people who were holding one. I realized I was by no means alone and the kind of people that had straws weren’t weirdos in trench coats or anything. Eventually I grabbed a straw too and met up with some people in the bookstore for coffee and conversation about the event. There were a couple of us who had never been before so we talked about how we were a bit nervous and our fears quickly subsided once some of the “vets” started telling us what to expect.

The party was the coming weekend and when I showed up it wasn’t what I had expected at all. It wasn’t in some slummy neighborhood in a warehouse tucked behind a strip club. It was in the dead center of the suburbs in a house not that different from my own. I knocked on the door and was greeted by the host, “Kim” who was dressed like she was hosting a dinner party. I introduced myself and was given a quick tour. There were snacks, towels, robes, bowls of condoms and lube samples, and each room had clean sheets, candles, and anything else anyone would need to feel totally comfortable.

There was a room for couples that you couldn’t enter without an invitation and there was a room for group sex where you couldn’t join without permission. The difference being that the first room required that you were requested by a couple to join in and in the second room you could approach a couple and either they could let you join or not. Neither the approach nor denials were harsh and you got the idea that anyone who wouldn’t take “no” for an answer would be quickly escorted out and asked never to return. It just wasn’t that kind of a place. It was very laid back, relaxing, and accepting. In fact, I couldn’t point out one creepy person in the whole house.

For the first while, people sat around and mingled, fully clothed, and talked about the same sort of thing you’d hear at any get-together: work, traffic, weather, etc. After an hour or two, you’d look over from your conversation and see a couple of people petting or getting really friendly. Shortly after, a few people had gone from fully clothed to partially clothed, but there was never any pressure to take your clothes off. It was completely up to you if and when you did anything.

I eventually ended up talking to “Susan” who had come with her partner “Jim” for what they said was their fourth or fifth time. Thinking back, it was rather remarkable how at ease we were talking about what we were into sexually. I thought I would be terrified! They were extremely mature and easy to talk to. They were into scenes where Susan would be with other men while Jim watched and then it would be just the two of them at the very end.

We hit it off and Susan told me that she wanted me, whenever I was ready, to meet them in the room that was groups-by-invitation only. With that, she and Jim went upstairs and I finished my glass of wine. By the time I had another conversation or two and had changed into a robe and went upstairs, they were already busy. Susan was in bed with another man (that I had talked with briefly before) and Jim was nearby, extremely calm about the entire thing. He seemed to be very happy at the experience she was having. Susan saw me enter and gave me a smile. I stood there and watched for what seemed like forever. Before this experience, I would have thought I would have been put-off by the fact that I was waiting for “sloppy seconds” but it didn’t turn out that way. In fact, it was very informative. I had never seen people having sex in person before and I have to say that it’s nothing like it is in porn. It’s hard to explain, but it’s a very natural experience.

The tension and anticipation was high since everyone’s attention was very focused in the room. When I was invited to join in (it was actually to step in to replace the first man), all that anticipation was replaced with warmth and a sense of great calmness. I disrobed and crawled into bed. The words I write here are meant to describe the experience overall, not a graphic, step-by-step recount of the sex I had that night. However, I can say that it was very natural, positive, and fun.

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In my everyday life, I don’t have a regular sexual partner and was extremely frustrated and tense in my life before my experience. I can’t tell you how many times I’d thought, “What the hell is wrong with me?” I knew I wanted to reach out and be physical with someone but wrestled with the process and also guilt from a religious upbringing.

I’m really surprised how satisfied it all made me feel. It was like I finally gained control of my own life and I felt empowered for the first time in a long time. I had finally accepted that I had physical needs and didn’t have to feel bad about that fact. I look forward to additional experiences, partners, and parties. Who knows, maybe I’ll host my own

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This article was published on Saturday 16 October, 2010.