I met a guy at work a month or two ago. He's very different from most guys I've thought about dating. He's attractive, funny, nice, charming, smart, all of that. But I don't normally go for his type. I like the typical "tall, dark, and handsome" kind of guy. Should I ask him out anyway?
- Confused in Salem, OR
Of course you should. I never understood the whole idea of having a "type." Sure, we all have things we are attracted to and things we aren't. But there is a difference. Limiting yourself to a certain kind of person is saying, "You know what? In a world where it's extremely difficult to find someone who treats me well, is open, honest, motivated, loyal, funny, inspiring, supportive, intriguing, attractive, charming, comforting, consistent, helpful, mature, (are you getting the point here?), I have decided to eliminate everyone who doesn't fit this little cookie-cutter mold of mine that I came up with long ago when I was somewhat of a different person." Wow, good luck. You're going to need it.
You said yourself that he's "all of that." Since when is someone having all the positive things you can describe end up being something you are confused about?
The only thing that having a "type" does for you is limit your chances of hanging out and making memories with someone great. I personally am not usually that into blondes, but I have to tell you that if I found one who was full of life, had a great sense of humor, and had everything together, the last thing I'd care about is her hair color.
Now call that boy up!
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This article was published on Saturday 16 October, 2010.
