I feel like this guy I’m having sex with works for Victoria’s Secret and gets a commission for every pair of my underwear he rips off and ruins. I buy a bra, he tears it off. I buy garter belts, he tears them off. I buy teddies, he tears them off. How can I explain to him that sometimes I like to wear these sexy things during sex and that he doesn’t have to ruin every damn thing I buy?
- Jodie M., LA
I can’t help you with your lingerie bill, but maybe if you explain to your boyfriend how erotic being partially clothed can be, that will do the trick. Being nearly nude is like a game of erotic peek-a-boo. It keeps your partner wondering exactly what’s going on under there and when it might be finally revealed to them. He may have seen your breasts hundreds of times, but that doesn’t mean that something can’t be done to make him feel a strong desire to see them again.
Similarly, undressing is part of getting comfortable with each other and feeling relaxed with them in that situation.
What you’re wearing under your clothes can be a real turn on for everyone involved. Just how far can you slowly peel those clothes off each other before it doesn’t make any more difference and you just have to have each other?
Of course, this all depends on the situation and there are times where the feverish passion and clothes just seem to get in the way. Just for the sake of your finances, it may be wise to set your guy up on a one-item-ruined-per-year limit, though. Or maybe start a little jar on top of the refrigerator labeled “Passion Fund.”
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This article was published on Saturday 16 October, 2010.
