What do you think makes people cheat? I don't mean chemically or genetically or whatever. What I mean is what do you think people do so that other people cheat on them? Why is it so common?
- Tony R., Jacksonville, FL
Well, you're making it sound like it's the fault of the person that gets cheated on, which isn't fair to say. It ultimately comes down to the person doing the cheating. If they've made the commitment to be with one person (in whatever capacity) and only that person, then going outside that is their choice and their mistake.
But when does it happen the most? Gideon says it happens most when girls get breast implants and the new confidence/attention that comes with that. I disagree. In my experience, I've seen it happen the most when something is not provided in the relationship. People are going to get what they need one way or another. If a woman isn't romantically satisfied, it isn't hard to picture a woman having some kind of connection to someone who provides that for her. If someone isn't as attracted to their partner as they used to be, it isn't hard to picture them having some connection to someone they are much more attracted to. By no means am I saying that it makes it okay; I'm simply saying that people are going to try to find all the puzzle pieces to their puzzle, sometimes even if they have to look in other boxes.
So, it's important to know what your partner needs and to give it to them. If they need you to be more romantic, you should do it. If you both need to be attractive to your partner, you should do it. If you need to be a little more sexual, you should do it. If you can't, then you can always find someone else whose needs you can fulfill
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This article was published on Sunday 24 October, 2010.